my heart is like a skyscraper: on petre, otherkinity, and sexuality

Lately there’s been a lot of discourse on engaging with your alterhumanity in a sexual way. While the discourse on packers is not necessarily a sexual thing, and is mainly a way to affirm one’s identity, there is definitely something that can be said about how people treat alterhumans and their relationship with sexuality. I’m aware that many people in the community are minors, or are sex repulsed, but that does not mean there is something wrong with engaging with your alterhumanity in a sexual manner. There is nothing wrong with being an alterhuman in a relationship, no matter what the nature of it is, with someone else.

I am a dog! I’m not your ferocious, wolflike dog. I am a housedog! This type causes us to have a number of urges. We don’t do quads, we aren’t interested in that sort of thing, but the idea of crawling around? On sleeping curled up in a little ball on a doggy bed with my favourite squeaky toy? So nice! I cope with this by sleeping curled in a ball on my bed with a fuckton of plushies. I often have the urge to chew and bite. A lot of the time I just… need something in my mouth, really. I deal with this by getting chewelry! I used to bite on my hands a lot, which left marks, and I try my best to not do this anymore! Chewelry is much better to work with. I bark! I get this out by, well, barking! I’m a big barker, lol. I’m also autistic! Barking is a great verbal stim. It tends to be something that really hypes me up and gets me full of energy. I get the zoomies a lot! It can be hard to handle the zoomies, especially when I’m at work. When I’m not at work, I can usually get the energy out by practicing choreography or by playing. Uh. Hatsune Miku Fitness Boxing. It’s fun and gets out a lot of energy! Plus, I get to play! I love playing! At work, again, things are a little complicated. I’m the type that tends to bounce my legs a lot. I recently got a stim toy that I’ve been using to try to chill me out when I get overstimulated. This ties into the zoomies, because if I am not able to let those zoomies out, I start freaking out and getting overstimulated. It can be rough working a desk job as a dog! Finally, I dream of sleeping in a crate. I want a crate more than anything. It could have plushies and cute blankets and fairy lights… I want a crate! I want to sleep in a cage! I tend to feel really comfortable in smaller spaces, because it allows me to curl up. It’s comfy! So, I just Know that I would love to have a cage. I’m your normal, average dog! My dogshifts and pet regression are basically indistinguishable from one another, because I am, in fact, a dog!

But, I am also an adult. I am demiromantic and bisexual. And I have, gasp, sexual thoughts. But… I am a dog! Does this mean I’m not allowed to be in a sexual relationship? Or a relationship, period? Do I have to hide my dog-ness, censoring myself? …No, not really. There’s this magical thing called! Petplay! I’m a pet dog, so I can be a pet dog in the bedroom! Does this mean that everything about my pet regression and dogkinity is sexual? Absolutely not! But, on occasion, there is some underlying sexual energy to it all. I want to lie my head on the legs of an owner, get pets, and do [redacted things that are between me and god]. I try my very best to be a good boy! And, if I can be a good boy in that way too, then that’s great!

When a part of your identity is strong, it is expected for it to be something that permeates every aspect of your life. Why does it seem that, for many, there are boundaries to that? I’m a dog, I will always be a dog, and I won’t stop being a dog during times where it might make uninvolved people “uncomfortable.” Because, frankly, why should it matter what these people think? They’re not in a relationship with me, and they have no right to police what I do. People are allowed to have kinks, they are allowed to be themselves, and there is nothing wrong with that! I’m not saying you’re not allowed to be uncomfortable with a kink, after all, it is important to only do what makes you happy in situations like that! But when it comes to what others do… who really cares? Nobody is harming anyone by wearing a collar with a cat bell during sex, or using a dildo shaped like an octopus’s tentacle, or doing something completely nonsexual like owning a packer that isn’t humanoid. This is normal. Sex is normal. You shouldn’t have to feel ashamed over wanting sex, and you shouldn’t shame others for wanting it either. I do understand the want to keep that kind of thing far away from you. I was like that for a long time! I was so afraid of the idea of sex. Sex was dirty, sex was scary, sex was wrong. But there’s nothing wrong with sex, there’s nothing wrong with indulging in kinks and fetishes, and there’s nothing wrong with existing and being happy! Of course, it is also normal to not want sex at all. To feel uncomfortable with the topic, and not want it brought up around you. That doesn’t mean you can tell people to stop being themselves, though. Because, frankly, it is none of your business.

Not everyone is going to feel the same way about sex, and that is okay! Just let people live their lives how they would like, and respect others. That’s what matters in the end!